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Reciprocal Encouragement


On the night of May 10, 1940, Winston Churchill became Prime Minister of Great Britain. The Germans had just launched their blitzkrieg into France. The Low Countries were already crumbling and the British Expeditionary Force — 300,000 men — was about to be trapped on the beaches of Dunkirk. The situation was, by any rational military analysis, catastrophic.

Churchill knew all of it. He said later that on that first night in office, he felt a profound sense of relief — because he knew that for all his faults, he was built for exactly this moment. What he did next is what made him Churchill. He didn’t retreat into crisis management. He got personal.

Churchill sent handwritten notes to fighter pilots. He visited bombed neighborhoods in London and wept openly with civilians who had lost everything. He called his generals not just to give orders but to express confidence in them — by name, specifically, personally. His personal secretary later said that Churchill understood one thing that most wartime leaders missed: people fight harder for someone who believes in them.

Across the Atlantic, FDR understood the same thing. In the darkest days after Pearl Harbor, Roosevelt received word that morale among factory workers in Detroit (who were retooling from cars to tanks) was cratering. The workers were exhausted, underpaid, and had no real connection to the war effort. FDR didn’t send a memo, DM or email….. He went there. He stood on the factory floor, looked workers in the eye, told them he had the highest confidence in them, and that what they were doing mattered to the outcome of the entire war.

Production doubled the next quarter. Confidence is not just a soft skill. It’s a force multiplier.

"I have the highest confidence in you, and I take great pride in you. You have greatly encouraged me and made me happy despite all our troubles." (2 Corinthians 7:4) 

Paul wrote this from inside a brutal stretch of ministry. He was worn down, criticized, physically beaten, and repeatedly abandoned. He had no political power, no army, no manufacturing base. He had a church full of difficult people in Corinth who had, frankly, given him more grief than gratitude. Feel familiar?

And yet — right in the middle of talking about his own afflictions, he pivots to tell them this: I have the highest confidence in you. Not “get your #$!!#! together”, Not “Suck it up buttercup”. No, he says: “The highest confidence". He speaks into them, not over them. That’s not a motivational, That’s leadership.

Paul understood what Churchill and FDR understood from the other side of history: that the people around you will almost always rise or fall to the level of your expressed belief in them. Not the belief you keep in your head. The belief you say out loud. The confidence you name specifically. The pride you actually tell them about.

Paul was also telling them that their encouragement helped him. Despite all our troubles, you made me happy. Confidence and encouragement weren’t just things Paul gave the Corinthians. They were things that flowed back and kept Paul in the fight.

That’s how it’s supposed to work. Real community isn’t transactional. It builds in both directions.

Who in your life or team is grinding through something hard right now, and when did you last tell them — out loud, directly, specifically — that you have the highest confidence in them? Not a generic: “You’ve got this.” Churchill wasn’t generic. FDR wasn’t generic. Paul wasn’t generic. They named people. They named what they saw. They told the truth about belief in a way that landed.

The grind has a way of making people feel invisible. The person next to you, your employee, your kid, your spouse, your teammate, may be one honest, specific word of confidence away from turning a corner.

You don’t need to be a prime minister or a president or an apostle to give that gift. You just have to mean it. And say it. Look them in the eye and tell them. Write them a personal handwritten note. Pick up the phone and call them. Everyone needs encouragement, especially me and you. You were made for this moment.


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